If there is anything that offends me most, it’s when someone attempts to make another person look bad infront of a group. It’s as if they wait for the perfect time, when another, or multiple adults are around to hear them bully their victim. Currently, I work with this so called “bully” of a person. She is 50, has a P.H.D, has worked in childcare for 25+ years, and is a very good friend of mine. Unfortunately, “Sarah” has a habbit of treating others like they are inferior, but only if another adult is around to witness. Several days ago, infront of two co-workers, “Sarah” addressed an issue with me from the previous day. She said it with a smug look, and in the oh-so familiar condesending tone that we have all experienced. Luckily, “Sarah” takes feedback well, and I kindly said, “Okay, I hear you, and I’d be happy to talk to you about this in private." She responded well to that, and we wound up having a very nice conversation. What is it about human nature that makes us want to belittle our peers? Why are we always trying to be the top dog? Because of how much it bothers me when this happens, I have tried to be very aware of the time, place, and tone that I talk to people in, and hopefully, someday, "Sarah" will be more aware as well.
I'm sorry--I don't know how I could have missed this. I was checking your blog for new posts and noticed my oversight. Please don't let me do that. I even read it--I remember, but never commented.
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I think you set up the Sarah piece nicely but we really need a quotation, something smug and condescending, to seal the deal.